20 year old alcoholic son
I dont' know where to turn to anymore. I don't know if this is the right thing or the wrong thing but I have given my 20 year old son an ultimatum. He has until Feb 1st to find a job or I am having him leave my house. This is so hard for me. He goes out every night, drinks every night, comes back in the morning, sleeps all day, wakes at night only to repeat the cycle over and over again...every single day. His friends supply him the alcohol. He has never had a job. He has no money. He dropped out of school in 10th grade. He's been in and out of counseling. He has panic attacks, but won't take meds for them. Instead he wants to self medicate with alcohol. He wont' get help. He doesnt' want help. He doesn't think he needs help. He says he can't get a job because he's way too anxious. I don't know what to do anymore. My husband won't discuss it with me because i've 'threatened' the kick out thing in the past but never followed through. My husband is not his dad. We just married last year and I already feel like we're headed towards divorce because of this and other things. Please help me. Am i doing the right thing??? I am ready to take my dog and myself and be the one to run away from both my husband and my son. It's breaking my heart.