David, YouAreMyHero (Mom)
Looking for other parents i who's got a child 18 and on Heroin? Need to know what gets you thru the days?
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Shared on Sep 13, 2011
Dear Isandoval, My daughter Erin started using heroin around the age of 18. I know how stressful all this is and you need to take care of yourself , one thing would be to get yourself some counseling. I know it helped me a great deal. You need to be able to talk about what you are feeling. It would probably be a good idea to call the Parent helpline @ 1-855-DRUG-FREE. We are all here for you. Mrs. M
Shared on Sep 16, 2011
my daugher relapses after 2 years of being clean. I should have been going to al-anon during this time for support. I am going today.
What gets me through my days? My faith. I learned along time ago . If you want to make God laugh....you tell him your plan. God is not responsible for my daughters addiction, my daughter is but I also learned that we are only human and we can only do so much .
God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
Hang in there
Shared on Sep 16, 2011
all this makes me feel like crying. like someone else cares. Im so tired of carrying this baggage alone. its killing me. And my home, my other children.... well theres been so much dysfunction since all this started. Its not my other kids fault, they did nothing wrong. But me as their mother, i havent been there for them the past year b\c ive been out there trying to save my son almost every morning, noon and night. Thank you MRSMUZZY and DESERVESPEACE. i have an appt 9-21 to seek help for myself. i have to unload what i thought was embarressing for anyone to find out. i need help. Big Time. I heard it recently again.. God will only allow you to go thru so much before he provides the way of escape. At this point i will do/go thru anything to save my only, youngest son. my baby. i use to be his princess (he would call me) now i'm his... he said to me the other day "Sometimes i wonder why Im still living with you in your house"! He was mean, angry and hurtful. This isnt my son... its someone else. and it hurts tremendously. Thank you 'whoever you all are... I found some peace on the site.
Shared on Sep 16, 2011
all this makes me feel like crying. like someone else cares. Im so tired of carrying this baggage alone. its killing me. And my home, my other children.... well theres been so much dysfunction since all this started. Its not my other kids fault, they did nothing wrong. But me as their mother, i havent been there for them the past year b\c ive been out there trying to save my son almost every morning, noon and night. Thank you MRSMUZZY and DESERVESPEACE. i have an appt 9-21 to seek help for myself. i have to unload what i thought was embarressing for anyone to find out. i need help. Big Time. I heard it recently again.. God will only allow you to go thru so much before he provides the way of escape. At this point i will do/go thru anything to save my only, youngest son. my baby. i use to be his princess (he would call me) now i'm his... he said to me the other day "Sometimes i wonder why Im still living with you in your house"! He was mean, angry and hurtful. This isnt my son... its someone else. and it hurts tremendously. Thank you 'whoever you all are... I found some peace on the site.
Shared on Sep 16, 2011
what a reformed addict told me one time is that when you deal/speak with an addict you are NOT talking to the person you know...it is almost like dealing with a split personality and you CANT take anything he says, regladless how hurtful to heart. You are right, this ISN:T your son , this his is addiction.
Word of advice, I know you love your son, I can hear the pain in your written words BUT if you are allowing him to live with you , you are hurting yourself and your other children. If your son is not willing to go to rehab, sober living etc, my biggest piece of advice would be to get him out of your home, for your safety and that of your other children. That may sound rough and harsh but allowing him to have a place to lay his head, get his meals also allow him to continue to feed his addiction. I told my daughter when she came out of rehab my home was her home IF she played by the "no drugs" rule, she broke that last night and I had to tell her to pack her bag. she didn't want to go to sober living, probably because she is not ready to get clean but I decided I could no longer subject my family to her nighmare, we deserved peace in our home and so do you. I know he is your baby and the bond between mother and son can be very powerful but your son has to understand that your love for him is unconditional but your LIFE and your right to your family to have a peaceful drug free life IS conditional. Tell him how much you love him, you will support him during his rehab but you will allow him to abuse (emotionally and phschology) you and your family any more. Good luck, I will pray for you. Be Strong
