I have a child that starting drinking heavily. How can I help her stop ?
Welcome to the group! You don't mention how old she is. That information would be helpful in order for the group to reach out and help you help her.
Dear Perez Girl,
We're here for you.
agree with Nana Banana – your next steps are, in part, dependent on your
daughter’s age. For example, if she’s a
teen living in your home, you may be able to set limits and restrictions on
what she does and where she goes, but if she’s an adult living in another town,
then you might be limited in what you can do to help her. Regardless of age or distance, you can help
her get better by providing support and letting her know that you’re there for
Without much information, I’m
going to go off on a limb and assume that she’s a teen or young adult. It might be helpful to try approaching her to
have a conversation about what’s going on if you haven't already.
I’ve outlined below some helpful checklist items for you to try before and
as you approach her about her drinking problem:
- First, talk with your spouse
or partner about what’s going on and come to an agreement on the position you’ll both take. Even if you disagree on the issue of her drinking problem,
commit to presenting a united front.
- Be prepared to be
called a hypocrite. Expect denial and
- Gather evidence. Anticipate the different ways she might try
to deny it. If she says it belongs to
someone else – it’s a good time to talk about doing drugs and drinking
- Set an expected
outcome. Try working towards a desirable
and realistic outcome. For example, set a small goal
and move toward it.
- Spell out rules and
consequences. Listen to her feedback and
let her help negotiate rules and consequences.
Remember, try not to set rules you will have no way of enforcing
- If there is a history
of addiction in your family, recognize it.
Use it as a way to talk to your child and regularly remind her of her
- Remind her of your
support. Reassure her that she can
confide in or seek advice from you when she’s stressed or dealing with a
personal issue – this can help diminish her desire to use.
more information, please visit our Intervention eBook and Time To Act.
Let me know if there's anything else I can help you with. Or if you need someone to talk to about this matter, please let me know.
She is 20 years old. Last night she decided to go out with a "friend". She didn't come home till this morning and told me that she had her iPhone and $200 stolen from her while she was hanging out with her friend. She admitted that she had been drinking, but was able to know what was going on. I doubt it because she smelled like a brewery. I'm at my wits end. Does anyone know where I can contact someone to come talk to her ?