How do you get them to realize they have a problem?
My son is 17 and started smoking marijuana February of 2011 until July of 2011. He then stopped due to playing a sport which he ended up quiting. He got his first girlfriend who was against drugs and didn't do marijuana at all during the 8 months of their relationship except for 1 time which he was caught by us. Then his girlfriend broke up with him. He had struggled with self esteem issues prior to his drug use due to being obese. He was bullied in school and would tell me he didn't care. He put up walls and would continue not to care about his weight. Finally in May of 2011 he realized he needed to lose weight. He has lost over 100lbs in 14 months by not eating much. Back to the drugs.... when the girlfriend broke up with him he spiraled downward into depression, self harm and marijuana again. He was suicidal and was put in a home for 72 hours. I thought this would wake him up but it did not. He is more determined to use marijuana. Tells us it is not addictive. We keep telling him it is illegal, we don't allow it, etc. He lied to us and was using it for over 2 weeks almost daily. We drug tested him 2 weeks ago and told him that if he continues to use it and is not clean in 30 days, he will not be responsible for his entire car insurance bill. He has stopped but now is being very angry and difficult. He won't talk to us, he blames us for his depression, he started smoking about a pack of cigarettes a day now and tells me that he is proving a point. He feels we need to let him make his own choices in life, etc. My husband and I are seeing a therapist for how to deal with him. I am so scared. He swears he will not do any other drug but marijuana. No matter what we try to tell him he fights and has all the answers. I don't know how to make him see he has an addiction problem!! How am I supposed to trust him in a year when he goes to college? He will be a senior this year in high school then off to college. He tells us he is not addicted but acting the way he is only proves he is.
I need advice. How can I get him to realize it?