should I pick him up from the hosptial when I think he should stay?
My 17 year old son is mentally ill (PDD, schizoaffective). He has been at a military boarding school, a wilderness treatment center, and a residential treatment center. He has lived at home and gone to public school with support, and he has gone to schools for kids with learning or social issues. He dropped out of high school during his junior year, and since then has been more and more on streets. He sleeps on couches, doesn't come home, has no job (he sometimes sells those newspapers that homeless people sell). He has stolen bicycles, laptops, ipods, and cell phones from us (his parents and siblings) repeatedly. He experimented increasingly with drugs, and last month started using heroine daily. Last week he signed himself into a crisis center, and was admitted to an acute care unit for adults..not a rehab. They want to transfer him to rehab, but he is refusing, saying he can go straight on his own. We refused to take him home. Now he has found a place to stay with a "friend" who he says is a recovered addict...and he wants me to pick him up at the hospital, which is about an hour away. I don't want to facilitate what I think is a bad decision, but I hate to abandon him...I already struggle with out decision to not let him come home. Am I doing the right thing to not get him? He also asked me for clothes and toiletries for while he is staying at his friends house. Please help me sort out the rights and wrongs.