Im 25 Im recovering but my parents are not it is taking a very negative effect on me and hurting my recovery slowly
Im 25 Im recovering but my parents are not it is taking a very negative effect on me and hurting my recovery slowly
I recently moved back in with my parents to start life over. I am 25 years old and i have been clean for just around 2 months now. I do attend and enjoy NA meetings, and just very recently I have started having the feelings of being happy and loving this way of life. Just everything in my mind and brain feel like a switch got turned on and i dont have any of the same thoughts or feelings, worries, or fears just completely everything. So I have been released from the mind and world of an active drug user. So i am recovering and starting to become a new me. The only thing and my reason for researching and coming to this website is because now more then ever i feel that my parents who are amazing loving awesome people who i am blessed to have, they have never been thru anything like this at all. Since they have no experience or education of any kind when it comes to being an addict and also when it comes to living with a recovering addict so they have pretty much just do what they think is the right way. But everything that i have been learning and reading and hearing from others is completely different. I know that they are only trying and wanting to help me but its actually having a negative effect on me that seems to be bothering me more and more. It would be nice if i could talk to my dad inparticular about this and try and get him to at least look at some of the information, or try out a nar-anon meeting or just anything that could maybe interest him to just hear that there are other ways of doing this and that his way is not always the right way just because he thinks so. I am still being looked at, treated, and spoken to like i am still using drugs. But i feel and think nothing like i did then. I am so confused and bothered by what to do and how to do it.
Any advice would mean so much to me
Jessica
Answers
First of all, I just wanted to say congrats on becoming sober and starting to turn your life around. Personally I think the best thing you can do is sit down with your parents and explain to them how you are feeling, hopefully they will understand. If that doesn't work ask them to come to a meeting with you and let them know that it would mean a lot to you and would really help you out. If it doesn't work and they are constantly bringing you down the best thing you can do is move out (if financially, mentally you can) maybe even keep your distance from them for a bit until you feel you are more recovered, I'm not saying stop talking to them or seeing them but when they do become negative towards you, go for a walk or go read a book or something.
I hope this helps at least a little bit. & I really hope you can stay clean and continue to live life happy, you deserve it ! Good luck on your future !
