My 21 y/o college son has been drinking heavily and doing poorly in his classes, mainly because he is missing so many. He also recently got a citation for public drunkeness and I'm afraid he might be driving too. However, he called the other morning stating he can't focus, he's very depressed and is taking himself to the ER. Long story short they admitted him in the psych unit for his depression and addiction. He is going to withdraw this semester since he may end up failing and he doesn't want to mess up his remaining year of college. I want to help him in any way I can, he will be coming home but afraid of being too stern and pushing him over the edge with his depression. How can I stand my ground on the no alcohol yet comfort and be there for him - he is 21.