Latest update - daughter drug free 10 days

Latest update - daughter drug free 10 days

crafty's picture
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Well, she say's she has been drug free for 10 days. She is currently staying in shelters, had a job for a couple of days but lost it. Says she is happy being in shelters and met a boy. He was arrested and is now in jail. She called us and wanted us to give her $1k to bail him out of jail. (of course we said no) She then decided she would start stripping to bail him out (unfortunately for her the places she went to were closed) I'm glad they were (she doesn't need to be doing that) She ended up sleeping on a bench the night because she missed the shelter cut off time. I worry about her sleeping on a bench, but I guess her being on drugs was worse. She called her dad to pick her up from that location and to drive to where her friend was being jailed (he said no to driving her to where her friend was) but did drive her back to the area of where the shelters were that she had been staying at. I pray everyday that she gets well and can be part of our family again. Letting go was the hardest thing for me. My husband still has not completely let go.

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Firefly's picture

My heart truly aches for you. I remember when my son left because he didn't want to be grounded. That time I said if you leave this time this isn't a hotel you can't come back till you do rehab for 3 months. He left for 2 months. I wouldn't wish those feeling on my worst enemy. Unless people live it they just don't understand it do they? I remember every time I ate, I felt guilty. What was my son eating? Every time I went to bed, I felt guilty. Where was my son sleeping, was he safe, was he warm? Just to let you know though, I lived through it. Didn't think I was going to make it through all the quilt, fear, and worry, but I did. My son came back and went to a wonderful rehab for 3 months and is doing wonderful back at school. He doesn't live in this town anymore because of way to much temptation with old friends. I pay rent to my oldest daughter for him to stay there. He is doing great. So you see sometimes there is a silver lining. Stay strong and if you're not seeing a councilor I really encourage you to do so. They teach you many things you need to know in order to do the correct things. The journey is long and hard but it gets better. You need to look after yourself 1st. That's the 1st step in helping an addict. Get help from professionals that are trained in substance abuse. Once I did things started working better, and faster. I wish you and your family the best. Remember you are not alone. There are many people in this world who can help, you just have to go ask them. They are great at what they do.

crafty's picture

Firefly, thanks for the encouragement. I saw her a couple days ago. My husband and I took her to lunch and bought her a few necessities, she just started a job yesterday and now needs some white polo shirts, hubby said we should help her out. She says she is not doing drugs and is still staying in shelters or sleeping in others cars when she misses the cutoff for shelters. She did tell me that a guy assaulted her at one of the shelters. (when I got home I was so emotional, I went to my room and fell asleep) I don't believe my husband gets as emotional over this as I do. Even though she is not doing drugs (so she says) she doesn't seem to be all there (her thinking is not rational at all) Today we are going to bring her a couple polo shirts and I told hubby I really didn't want to go as I can't emotionally handle it. Your right about counseling, I probably should seek help. I did go to a few different meetings, al anon (which I did not really like at all) Pads in AZ which I really did like (they don't have them where I am currently) Anyway we are off! Thanks again for your support and encouragement.

mrkjohnson28's picture

Treatment for substance abuse is critical for many around the world. Often a formal intervention is necessary to convince the substance abuser to submit to any form of treatment. Behavioral interventions and medications exist that have helped many people reduce, or discontinue, their substance abuse.