My heart is breaking.
My heart is breaking and I don't know what to do. My son has a drug problem and I am losing him. What do I do? I know the sweet boy I love is still in there I see glimpes of him from time to time.
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Dear Heavy Heart,
We as moms have the jobs of kissing away the “boo boos” and making things better for our children, but addiction is not a "boo boo" that can be kissed away, it is a disease of the brain and one that has many bitter consequences. You did not cause it and you can not cure it. Lord knows I tried. What I learned through all this was that I was allowing my guilt and fear to over shadow me and paralyze me. I too became depressed and also neglectful of my other children because I was so focused on saving my daughter’s life. My focus needed to be not only on my daughter but my other children and myself as well. They needed me too, but they suffered from my neglect. I am still dealing with the effects of that neglect years later and believe me, it was such a hard lesson to learn. This truly is a family disease and it affects every member. I read this devotional yesterday and it is very true. “Mothers don't have to accept the blame for their adult children’s choices. When freedom to make their own decisions has been handed over, so has the responsibility for the outcomes of those decisions. I realized I was trying to take that ownership on myself and it was not mine to take. Does it hurt, yes it does, but when you can take those “reactions” to their choices and turn them into positive “actions”, you can also begin to heal. I know from experience. My prayers are with you to find some peace in this chaotic and emotional situation and that you begin to realize that you need to focus on your own health as well. Remember, you are not alone!
Dear Heavy Heart,
We as moms have the jobs of kissing away the “boo boos” and making things better for our children, but addiction is not a "boo boo" that can be kissed away, it is a disease of the brain and one that has many bitter consequences. You did not cause it and you can not cure it. Lord knows I tried. What I learned through all this was that I was allowing my guilt and fear to over shadow me and paralyze me. I too became depressed and also neglectful of my other children because I was so focused on saving my daughter’s life. My focus needed to be not only on my daughter but my other children and myself as well. They needed me too, but they suffered from my neglect. I am still dealing with the effects of that neglect years later and believe me, it was such a hard lesson to learn. This truly is a family disease and it affects every member. I read this devotional yesterday and it is very true. “Mothers don't have to accept the blame for their adult children’s choices. When freedom to make their own decisions has been handed over, so has the responsibility for the outcomes of those decisions. I realized I was trying to take that ownership on myself and it was not mine to take. Does it hurt, yes it does, but when you can take those “reactions” to their choices and turn them into positive “actions”, you can also begin to heal. I know from experience. My prayers are with you to find some peace in this chaotic and emotional situation and that you begin to realize that you need to focus on your own health as well. Remember, you are not alone!
